Thursday, February 12, 2009

Valentine's Day...Shmalintine's Day

I need to confess, I need to come clean, I need to speak my mind. I HATE Valentine's Day. There I said it! Wait, I don't just hate it, I loath it. I despise it. It shadows the entire month of February. I have an involuntary physical reaction at the thought of this holiday.
Now, not to be a "Debbie Downer" about the whole idea... a bit too late... but when did we, as a society, have to be TOLD to show love for one another? When did we as loved ones become so neglectful of one another's feelings that a day was designated for us to be reminded of our affections?
I've really never had a bad Valentine's Day, although my feelings profess I must have. I think it probably stems from a lack of "romanticism". To be frank, it kinda freaks me out. If some guy, back when I was dating, showed up at my house with a crap load of flowers, took me out to an expensive dinner then to his house where rose peddles were sprinkled about, I would have had to drop kick the dude and run out screaming! If Trever showed up with some gaudy jewelery and roses that cost TWICE as much on that one day then any other day, I would force him to return the trinket and try frantically to revive our bank account.
What ever happened to being nice, just because you want to, not because you want SOME?
My most favorite Valentine's Day of ALL time was the day Trev showed up with a half gallon of Cookie Dough Ice cream and a big A coke from Circle K, just for me! That rocked! No damage was done to our financial standing, no bill to pay later, and no pressure to reciprocate. Just some good ol' fashioned kindness!
I know that there are a lot of women out there that adore the thought of Valentine's Day, and I admire them. But pity their significant other. It must be tough to be a guy who knows the pressure this day implies. Finding not only something thoughtful but romantic too! Only to have the lady, in which the gift was intended, be disappointed in its inability to live up to her unobtainable expectation?
So I say we boycott! We take back our power to be thoughtful! Forget about February 14th as the "Day of Love" and why not make it March 21st? or June 6th? Why not just be kind and thoughtful because we like the person in which we are bond in this life as well as the next?
How about a sincere expression of gratitude for the hard work that our husbands put forth in our behalf? Why not a genuine pat on the rump and a "lookin' hot babe!"
I would trade this one day of forced romance for 364 days of sweet kindness any time!



With that said... I wish you ALL a very
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!

10 comments:

Alisha-aka skeezie said...

HAHAHAHAHA. SO ANNIE! LOVE IT, AND I THINK I AGREE. THAT PRESSURE TO BE EXTRA SWEET ON THAT ONE DAY....JUST SEEMS TO BE A BIT ON THE FAKE SIDE, YA? ICE-CREAM AND COKE--NOW THAT'S TRUE LOVE! CHEERS TO THE OTHER 364 DAYS OF THE YEAR! MISS YOU GIRL! PS-I LOVE THIS PIC OF YOU AND TREV!

The Baum Squad said...

Amen sister. i would much rather a pat on the bootie than an expensive gift. And how about in high school when those girls got big ol bouquets and balloons and gag...just cuz their loser boyfriends already graduated and couldn't find a girl their own age to date...did I say that I hate valentines too?

DIY REDS! said...

i am way more practical then jeff but i keep up appearances for him. you should go to welcometomysoapbox.blogspot.com and look under the posts labeled "girls are stupid" she is funny and expresses some of the same ideas.

Jannie said...

WOW! Annie that was quite a monolog. Well stated though. I like V-Day but I must confess that picking up flowers n' such near Valentine's day makes me feel a bit like a sheep. There is literally a whole herd of guys in line at every store. It seems so unoriginal. (p.s. Jannie loved her flowers anyway) We sure enjoyed hangin' out with You, Trevor and your boys up there! Take care. -Reed Lisonbee lisonblog.blogspot.com

Laura said...

My Annie WOW that was super deep! Your thoughts are probably right on with many men and women out there way to be brave and get it out! Hope today is all the icecream and soda you would enjoy! Love you!

Heather Curnutt said...

This made me laugh! Thank you for the birthday wishes--I agree that I am the best thing about the day!! Jake rarely does the flower thing and I don't mind--I think coke and icecream sounds perfect and actually that is more like Jake anyway. So glad your husband knows you well and knew exactly what to get you.--Heather

Leslie said...

That is hilarious. I learned a hard lesson this year (mental note V-day is sentimental to mark) must do better next year!!I too am all about year round love and kindness and spur of the moment cookie dough ice cream :)

Lis said...

amen, Amen, AMEN!!! Well said, dear friend! BTW... HOW ARE YOU?!?!? I'm feeling homesick for you. Let's talk SOON! Love ya!

Nicole said...

You're so funny, Annie! I too am not a big fan of Valentine's Day! I think its a waste of a day! Cade had such a good time with your boys last week. He keeps asking about them and when he gets to play with them again. We should get together and do dinner or something! Cade would love to spend some more time with the boys! Let me know if you guys want to do something and we'll plan it.

Laura said...

Its Porters special day! We so wish we could be there....we've been sick! Hope you feel us there in spirit!!! We love you!